so i took one of those quizzes hotmail throws at ya when ya go to ur email...

Why Are You Still Single?

Independent Spirit

The way you deal with yourself and the men in your life is extremely healthy. You don't harbor bitterness toward your exes or toward men in general, nor are you projecting a too-eager vibe to your dates. That's because you like your life, and you're not in any particular rush to change it. It could be that you're cherishing your time alone and using it to explore new sides of yourself. Or it could simply be that you haven't met the right person yet. Kathleen Woodward Thomas, a psychotherapist and author of Calling in "The One": Seven Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2004) points out that it's crazy for women to feel like failures just because they've stayed single into their 30s and 40s. Our mothers may have all been wedded by age 24, but they were looking for very different kinds of relationships. "Women are looking for soulmates now. We want a deep friendship and meaningful connection. This was not true 40 years ago," says Woodward Thomas.

i took this after hearing a 'there's a guy for u' schpiel from an unnamed friend. can't say that i was particularly worried... being single is a-ok. it's a different kind of fun than being in a relationship. while yes, sometimes it would be nice to have someone, it's totally okay to not. i get so tired of the notion that one needs a bf to be totally happy. this is an excellent time in ur life to be single, ladies.